Seemingly out of the blue, a client asked me if I'd heard of 'comping'. “It’s when musicians take all the best parts of different types of music and bring them all together”.I didn't see the relevance. "Well, it got me thinking," she persisted, "Of how not everyone agrees on the same best parts of music." "Yeah, sure". I… Continue reading Have You Heard Of Comping?
You're at that "I've even too much" tipping point. You feel like you've gone too far, and you want to press the "Fuck It" button and just let rip! Zoom out. This discomfort is temporary. Your body will digest, and the discomfort will pass. Zoom Out. Have you really eaten too much? Too much for… Continue reading Freaking Out? Zoom Out.
Have you ever wanted to “eat normally” but no matter how well you start your day, you always end up losing control around food and bingeing until you can barely move, only to then have to figure out how to undo all the damage you’ve just done?If so, you aren’t alone.In fact, many of the… Continue reading Want To End Out-Of-Control Eating? Here’s how…
If you’re smashing your recovery then there’s no need to read this post.If, however, you’re struggling big time and nothing seems to be working…. then keep on reading.I’m going to be brave and ask the uncomfortable question:Are you hoping to get what you need for recovery by reading posts like these and watching YouTube videos?Look, no judgement… Continue reading Can you recover without help?
"Nothing ever goes away until it has taught us what we need to know.”Pema Chödrön said that. And the first time I heard it I felt like screaming! "What don't I bloodie know!?"I’d tried a thousand times to recover to no avail. Therapists, meal plans, OA, kinesiology, psyllium, psilocybin - nothing worked. "What do I still need to learn… Continue reading Arrrrgh! What do I still need to learn damnit!?
If you could choose only ONE thing to focus on in the early days of bulimia recovery what would it be?Yes, abstinence from bingeing or purging is important. But focussing on those two things is akin to taking a pill for the pain - it deals with the symptoms, not the cause. There is ONE… Continue reading Forget Not Bingeing Or Purging…Focus On This Instead.
“I’m sitting with an intense desire to binge. All I want to do right now, in this moment, is give in one last time and try again tomorrow. My breathing is shallow, my heart is racing, my body is on high alert - begging me to walk back to the kitchen and just let go.… Continue reading It’s fear, not hunger…
Yesterday we chatted about how repeated 'failures' around food, weight and bulimia recovery, will erode your confidence and can paralyse you from trying again. It's no different to having your heart trampled on in a nasty break up. You'd be forgiven for not wanting to rush out and take a chance on love again. Well,… Continue reading 6 Success Principles For ED Recovery (and everything else)
It's time to take down the second biggest obstacle to long lasting recovery from bulimia or binge eating: Fear of Failing (again!) "I'd be mortified if this was just another thing that didn't work" I hear this, or a version of this all the time. I also hear, "I'm a failed anorexic" If fear of… Continue reading You Haven’t Failed At Bulimia Recovery
When I was younger my nanny called me "Mafutha" (after an elephant famous for its girth) to the great delight and guffaws of her friends! I couldn't have been more than 3 years old and it's the first memory I have of feeling 'too fat'. There's no doubt that she loved me and didn't intend to… Continue reading You big fat elephant! Ha ha ha!